‘It is not your problem’

Active listening

I have always been the person who looks for solutions to a problem. But that doesn’t mean it’s right. Trying to advise people who are not willing to listen and understand another person’s view is like getting blood out of a stone.

Impossible. Useless.

Your mind-set needs to shift; firstly to understand and then respond when it is appropriate.

To put a stop to over-caring about people who simply don’t want to be helped.

It is not your problem. It never was.

Looking for solutions to problems that don’t necessarily involve you will cause a lot of unnecessary stress in your life. As the famous poet Jalaluddin Rumi beautifully stated,

‘Half of life is lost in charming others. The other half is lost in going through anxieties caused by others. Leave this play. You have played enough’.

Active listening usually comes up in positive situations, but is a godsend in recognising those who may impede our growth into becoming a mentally strong person.

‘The entitled ones’

If you’re lucky enough to have not crossed paths with these people then hats off to you for recognising and avoiding them.

But for the majority of those who unfortunately have dealt/dealing with them this is for you.

If you are always keeping peace with people who bring negative and toxic energy in your life, you will never win.

They will look for faults in others and in you.

The best way to deal with this type of energy is to reduce contact by limiting any type of interaction with them.

Of course they will notice because narcissistic people attract empathetic people.

They are like leeches. No, in fact they are.

These kinds of people are known as energy vampires, who feed off of your niceties.

Your kindness will be mistaken as your weakness until your cup is empty.

These are self-absorbed individuals who make everything about themselves until someone calls them out on their behaviour.

Until then you will be dealing with someone who is insensitive and frankly only cares when it suits them.

I would argue they don’t care at all. But I’ll leave that discussion for another time.

These kind of people suffer deep within and lack self awareness and empathy.

When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.

Again, it is not your problem. It’s not about you.

Be grateful you have met such people, so that the next time you cross paths with someone who is an energy vampire you’re able to adopt a stronger boundary.

‘If you are willing to look at another person’s behaviour toward you as a reflection of the state of their relationship with themselves rather than a statement about your value as a person, then you will, over a period of time cease to react at all.’ Yogi Bhajan

You have mastered a soul lesson when the circumstances has not changed but the way you respond has. This is true energy self mastery.

Carrying the weight of others will wear you down.

Let go and move on swiftly with your life.

Life is short and the only person you have control over is the person you are today.

Take the journey into the self and allow room for growth. That is surely most beneficial.

People can and will only go so far they see themselves. The rest is down to you.

Stop taking things so personally.

Literally.

You will save yourself a thousand times.

Hand over heart. Breathe in gratitude. Exhale judgement. Set an intention that might just set you free. — Vienna Pharaon